What we read in Genesis 3:13 the Apostle Paul makes abundantly clear in 1 Timothy 2:14: “Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.” But whereas Eve was deceived first, Adam was “formed first, then Eve.” (2:13) And with authority comes responsibility. When God called out to a cowering Adam, he asked, “Where are you?” (Gen. 3:9) Not you all. You. Singular. In God’s design for marriage, it was Adam being summoned before the righteous Judge of all the earth. Adam took the fall, and in the end, we all did. (Rom. 5:15-19) This then begs the inevitable question: if the fate of the human race hung on Eve’s decision to eat the fruit, and if Adam sinfully followed her lead in eating it, what should have been Adam’s response?
Contrary to modern depictions of Adam as a bumbling cave man, the first human being wasn’t a lurching idiot. He was a divine image-bearing prince who walked with God. His blessings were obvious and His duty was clear: have dominion. (Gen. 1:28) So how was Adam to react to his wife’s sinful seduction by a Snake? The answer is a bit more obvious than we might think: “Pardon me sir. I’m not sure who you think you are, but you don’t talk to my wife like that.”
Sin began with the questioning of God’s truthfulness and His goodness. (Gen. 3:1-5) And that’s precisely when Adam was called to step in. Adam’s mandate to rule the world and lead his wife included reminding her of God’s truthfulness and His goodness. He should have exercised his godly authority by wrapping her up in the promises of God. And in a world increasingly seduced with the same Satanic lie, that remains a husband’s job today. Husbands are providers and protectors. But they’re also reminders.
Where does the modern husband fail his wife most? In today’s busy family, far too many men are willing to remind their wives about dates on a calendar and events on a schedule, but yet unwilling to simply remind her of what God said about her. When a woman feels inadequate as a mother or un-beautiful as a woman or discouraged as a sinner, she is silently questioning her identity. And while her relationship with Jesus is her own, her one-flesh union with her husband is so tight and intimate that his spiritual negligence has the power to hinder prayers. (1 Peter 3:7) A husband’s call to lead his wife is a call to remind her daily of the riches of God’s grace in the Gospel. Because she needs it. The mother of his children is herself the daughter of a King. The woman raising his family has herself been adopted into the family of God. And by faith, Jesus loves her regardless of what she’s done or how she feels.
Your wife is forgetful. She needs a man with a good Gospel memory. A godly husband is a good reminder, unwilling to forget his anniversary but unable to forget the Gospel that truly weds them.