I have found that with most people, and this includes myself, that when we say \u201cgoals\u201d what we really mean is \u201cdesires\u201d.<\/p>\n
When we say something to the effect of, \u201cYea it\u2019s a goal of ours this year to [fill in the blank]\u2026\u201d but we have no measurable outcome that I know of which we\u2019ve decided upon so that we’d know this thing were fully achieved, then it\u2019s actually a desire.<\/p>\n
I am trying to correct this misspeaking in myself.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m not trying to correct this because goals are necessarily better than desires in any way. Many desires have accomplished far more than goals. In fact, I\u2019m not even, yet, trying to turn these desires into goals.<\/p>\n
Nope; I\u2019m trying to correct this because meaning what I say and saying what I mean is important.<\/p>\n
I think it\u2019s a great start to even clearly just state and define one\u2019s desires. This is farther than most people get.<\/p>\n
This is especially true if you have a spouse (or most any partnership). Many unions have struggled because of poorly conceived or poorly communicated desires.<\/p>\n
There is much power in a defined desire which becomes\u00a0capable of being communicated well. If this is accomplished, goals will typically take care of themselves if they’re even needed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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